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Offline Perce74

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Loss of Husband
« on: February 05, 2018, 08:45:10 AM »
Hello
I lost my husband on 19th Jan 2018
Very suddenly to a Cardiac Arrest
I had to perform CPR he was in an induced coma for days unti he passed away!
We have no children ( not through choice) and im left totally alone during our marriage we had a lot thrown at us it made us strong and we were toral soulmates im just so lost as we both got each other through difficult times now its just me :-( x

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Re: Loss of Husband
« Reply #1 on: February 05, 2018, 10:19:09 AM »
Sending you a welcome hug  :hug:
It's a rollercoaster journey, but you're not alone on it here.  Do you have any friends or family nearby?  Xx
Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise. 
Hold on in there xx

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Re: Loss of Husband
« Reply #2 on: February 05, 2018, 11:07:42 AM »
Thank you
Yes, family and friends have been marvellous but just in so much shock at the moment x

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Re: Loss of Husband
« Reply #3 on: February 05, 2018, 02:03:58 PM »
welcome too the forum i found this place after losing my husband almost seven years ago and it became a life saver knowing i wasnt alone realising that i wasnt actually going mad at times because others were experiencing the same. I hope we can continue that support that i had and it helps you too. :hug:

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Re: Loss of Husband
« Reply #4 on: February 05, 2018, 06:17:11 PM »
Thank you
Its just the massive loss that hits you so sudden x

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Re: Loss of Husband
« Reply #5 on: February 07, 2018, 03:53:44 PM »
 :hug:It is a huge loss, like half of you has been taken away with them and you dont want that back -because you belong with them -but you dont know how to live half a life -all i can offer is that you dont get that half back, but learn how to function better and grow with what is left of yourself.

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Re: Loss of Husband
« Reply #6 on: February 08, 2018, 02:55:08 PM »
Yes, I totally understand what you are saying!
It was the funeral yesterday and I feel even worse today!
Its so horrendous :-(. X

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Re: Loss of Husband
« Reply #7 on: February 09, 2018, 12:39:59 PM »
 :hug: :hug:It hits hard after the funeral because in a weird sense, before it you are still doing something on their behalf -after it feels like there is nothing more you can do, and so the empty pit opens upunder you completely
In time you can still do something on their behalf -i decided to live my life for my husband -do some of the things we planned but didnt get round too, some of the things he would have liked to do but never got chance too - and plant wild daffodils in all our favourite places because he died just befor they came out -but so wanted to see them - so i do still act on his behalf just in a different way. For now though its a case of tiny steps, take each hour as it comes, cry when you need too and be kind too yourself.

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Re: Loss of Husband
« Reply #8 on: February 09, 2018, 12:58:48 PM »
That sounds like lovely ideas
You are right about the planning for the funeral afterwards you seem at a loss’
I would like to carry on with the things that we both loved!
He was looking forward to getting the garden lovely for the summer so that’s an idea too

Thank you for your reply xx


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Re: Loss of Husband
« Reply #9 on: February 10, 2018, 03:28:46 PM »
Gardening is perfect somehow you are never alone in a garden .but can get absorbed in what you are doing more easily.Plus you can't really fail to smile even momentailly when you hear birds singing. :hug:

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Re: Loss of Husband
« Reply #10 on: February 10, 2018, 04:04:22 PM »
Very true xx

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Re: Loss of Husband
« Reply #11 on: March 07, 2018, 03:06:52 PM »
I'm so sorry for your loss- I get exactly where you are coming from. How are you getting along?
 My husband and I were two halves of the same whole; I lost him to brain cancer which stripped him of both body and mind.  It was so quick with no warnings.  I feel adrift and I am sure you do too.  I am sending you big love.  xx

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Re: Loss of Husband
« Reply #12 on: March 08, 2018, 10:57:29 PM »
Hi
So sorry to hear about your husband

I myself am getting through each day on auto pilot feeling lost and incomplete!
Missing My Husband every day! Xx