Hello!

[Chris]

Hi everyone,
I'm new here,only just joined.
My name is Chris....short for Christine, I prefer to be called Chris,
I lost my mum on 22nd may this year, thought I was coping OK, but today I'm on a real downer and missing her so much, I'm 64,nearly 65, no matter what age you are,i think losing your mum is the worst thing ever.
I lost my dad when I was 14, my nan when I was 18, my best friend when I was 24, my brother 8yrs ago,my sister in law 6yrs ago,my niece 2yrs ago,now my mum! I have a son who I see a lot of, two other nieces who I never see, as you can imagine im feeling very alone and lost at the moment.
Thanks for listening

[Hubby]

Hi Chris. Welcome to the forum. I am so sorry to hear of your loss.

This grief is a cruel thing isn't it. We just think we are getting on top of it then it comes back for another bite. it's a long journey we are on but I'm told it does get easier with time.

Wishing you strength.

 

[Emz2014]

Sending a welcome hug  xx

[Karena]

Hi Chris
You are right losing your mum at any age is a big loss .I lost mine 12 years ago and there are still times I feel that emptiness.I remember at the time feeling shocked not just at the loss of the one person who was always there but because at 42 I was suddenly the matriarch and somehow had to replace her role.

[Julie Magson]

Hello Chris 

[Norma]

Welcome Chris sending you a welcome hug xx

 

[longedge]

Hi Chris,

Sorry for your loss. It's horrible and it'll take time for you to start getting used to being without 'mum'. Even several years after I lost my mum I sometimes thought momentarily, "not rung mum for a while, better go and do it now". In my extended family she was loved by all and we keep her memory alive by often talking about her and having a laugh about her little peculiarities. There does come a time when the pain goes and the fond memories take over.

[Chris]

Hi everyone and thanks for your replys.
Yes it's going to take a while, I used to see mum everyday, then as she got older and got that she couldn't make it to the shops anymore I would do her shopping for her, she had osteoporosis  in her spine and was in Constant pain, then she ended up in hospital with phnuomia, then a nursing home for rehab, but she never came home again.
I went to see a friend today who I hadn't seen for a while with mum being ill and then passing away, I was telling her all about what happened and I broke down, I thought I was getting ok with it all, but I do have my down days.
Sometimes when something happens I think to myself "I must tell mum!" then it comes back to me she isn't here!
 

[Norma]

Hello Chris, I think there will always be instances  when for a moment something happens that brings our loved ones to mind. Given time though it wont necessarily mean tears, hopefully we can remember our loved  ones with fondness rather than of sadness. Xx

 

[Hubby]

It's still early days for you Chris. It's a crazy time when your mood can change at the drop of a hat. You feel OK then, bang, there's grief tapping you on the shoulder.

Enjoy the breaks and take each day as it comes.