Hi,
Lost my wonderful wife of 36 years marriage last month with advanced, vascular, dementia after by far the worst 13 months of my, as well as our son's life. She was only 69, a year older than me. My son and I were due to take her to a memory clinic on 18th September last year after we noticed she was experiencing fairly mild, memory, problems after her 4th TIA in September 2015. Unfortunately she contracted urosepsis on 4th September and after 6 weeks in hospital was discharged into a wonderful nursing home with a prognosis of only 3 weeks to 3 months to live confined to a bucket chair or bed, incontinent and suffering from frequent anxiety attacks. She was much brighter than me and the last bit of her anatomy she would have chosen to lose was her brain.
Thanks to the wonderful care and attention in the nursing home she survived a year after discharge but the daily commute from where I live in South Devon into Plymouth to help her with her lunch but see her degenerate into a child has been so depressing and heart rendering. I often left in tears.
Are there any local groups in the South Hams area where people suffering bereavement meet up?