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CarolineL:
Hi, I am new to the forum and have read some very sad and some very comforting messages over the last few weeks. I suppose I started because I was looking for answers looking for something to take away the pain. After 8 months of being with out the love of my life I'm beginning to see there are no answers but there are people who understand because they are, or have, gone through the same thing. The pain will always be with me I'm beginning to realise that, now I need to learn how to live with it.
Emz2014:
Welcome Caroline :hearts:
Its natural to try and find something to take away the pain. It is hard to hear at the beginning of the journey but the pain will ease in time. We will not get over grief but the intensity of pain will ease and change. It can be a surprise but its often a longer journey than we expect - perhaps it's society which has given the impression grief is finished after the funeral. Only those who have lost people really understand.
Be gentle with yourself, as long as you're taking baby steps forward (even if there are a few steps backwards or pauses) you're doing ok on this grief rollercoaster. And here on the forum you're not alone xx
CarolineL:
Thank you for your kind words, its good to hear from someone who knows for them selves x At first I thought 'give me a year' but now am realising that this will be with me forever. It is a roller coaster ride for sure but I count myself fortunate to have good family and friends. Strange though I still feel lonely as my husband and I did everything together and now he's not here it hurts. I am so pleased I have found this forum, its good to talk.
Monster Bear:
Hiya, although I’ve already responded on the welcome forum I thought I’d reply here too.
We have both lost our loved one after 32 years, it’s a long time to be together and now suddenly we’re alone. I’m struggling with the loneliness in spite of being surrounded by people. It’s also hard because we think no one really understands us which I think is true as each of us is unique and had a unique relationship with our partner. But we must not give up and must strive to have a full life and I know my girl would want me to continue, laugh and enjoy life whilst supporting and encouraging our family.
One day at a time is my new mantra, all I can offer is the advice to embrace all the love and joy you’ve had over the last 32 years and to look at the future as a new challenge to succeed with your loved one being proud of you. I have no idea what tomorrow will bring but I know my beautiful girl is waiting for me when I finally pass to be with her. 😘
CarolineL:
Hi Monster Bear,
I ask him every day 'how am I doing pet' and some days not so good as others but I count myself lucky to have had a love some people never find. Just like you, just miss him so much, after all those years of being together it is difficult to start a new life you didn't ask for. Though like yourself I just take one day at a time and try not to plan to far ahead. I'm lucky to having loving friends and family there when needed, hope you have too.
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