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General Category => General Discussion => Topic started by: Fleur on October 08, 2017, 07:43:44 AM
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Good morning Everyone.
I started this thread so that I could let Everyone who seems to be trapped in their sadness, struggling to cope, or actually finding themselves able to inch forward, know that you are in my thoughts this morning.
If you feel drawn to add a greeting here please do.
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Well its evening,so i will add good evening too your greeting.
My plan for tonight involves snuggling down with hot ribena and honey as I seem too have developed a pesky cold.But my achievement for today was to shrug off years of shall I shan't I debate and paint the stone fireplace,not blanket paint it all but make lighten the limestone with a limewash.I,m still deciding whether I like it or not but I like that I finally trusted myself to do it.One of the many things we miss about or loved ones is having no one to debate these little issues with and trusting ourselves to do it alone so even when its a minor thing one of those little steps forward is being able to do that.
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Good morning Everyone.
Here I am, doing my best to face another day. I'm so grateful to you all for being here. Just reading your posts and knowing that I'm not alone helps me such a lot. I can't help wishing that we all were much happier though.
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Morning Fleur
Yes it is a daily struggle
I too would like to feel a bit more optimistic about the future tine ahead and more accepting of being alone
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I can't help wishing that we all were much happier though.
Good morning Fleur - I'm certainly with you there! I do have the odd moment nowadays, might be a favourite song on the radio, a humorous moment on the tele or even a funny comment in one of the forums I visit when I actually feel a little glimmer of happiness. It never lasts long but the misery is slowly being broken up into bite size chunks :smiley:
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I think there are levels of being happy.I struggle with SAD so bad time of year coming up anyway.But I,m not miserable or even unhappy all the time,maybe content isn't the right word either.I laugh,but the laugh never quite reaches my heart.I love my grand children and children without condition and so they make me happy I see a dolphin and my heart lifts like it used too but i,m aware of a space where he should be standing.I enjoy travelling but again there is a space, There is a big chunk of happy missing that I don't think will ever be replaced.
Overall life has been pretty traumatic as long as I can remember.
But there was a period of time when we were together and life was pretty perfect.All is lost now,but I am really glad that I knew what I had when I did.Many people don't get that or don't realise that they have because they're always looking for more.So even though I could spend the rest of my life missing that chunk of happiness I,m really glad I had it to miss.
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Good morning Everyone. I hope today brings you comfort and hope.
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Hello All, wishing you a good start to your day although I'm sitting here feeling a little apprehensive myself. Being here gives me strength though so I shall think of you all and get on with my day.
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Thinking of you too Fleur. Hope your apprehension eases soon. Are you popping out for a bit today? Xx
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I feel more positive now thanks Emz, I did go out and I felt better for it. I hope you had a good day.
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I had a good day thanks, it was my non working day and I spent some of it with my mum learning some sewing techniques :-)
Hope you have a good day today xx
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I went out today and got soaked in the pouring rain....oh well, it was better than sitting here on my own.
Keep well everyone. :hug:
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:hug:well done,it would be so easy to stay in in this gloomy weather and hibernate.
I took the dog back tonight going to miss him ( watching paul o grady isnt helping ) but there is no doubt he was happy to be home and running around with the kids.
I am now debating with myself over the weekend camping trip having seen the storm Brian forecast I think I am not going.
Its not so much being there in the bad weather but driving back on country lanes possibly flooded and in high winds.I hate that my confidence has come too this but I just have a bad feeling about it.
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I think your confidence is intact in this instance Karina, camping in the storm won't be much fun I'm sure and there will be other opportunities won't there?
Keep safe.
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There will be other opportunities - but this particular site at this time of year is magical and its around keiths birthday - so it was going to be a bit of kick back "me" time during the day when everyone went off to the beer festival. - but the decision was made this morning when my 13 year old grandson rang out of the blue to say he was hoping i wasnt going, it was quite a random thing to do but i think i have to listen too mine (and his) instincts on this now. but youre right -having confidence in your instincts is still confidence. :hug:
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Good morning to you all, I just popped in whilst enjoying my breakfast coffee :coffeetoast:
I hope today brings you all a little measure of love and happiness.
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Hope your day did too Fleur.Mine brought work and I,m playing catch up so looks like free overtime will be on the cards this week.Did have a chuckle though,my boss set up some kind of wireless device on my windowsill to go with the weather station that has appeared in the garden.This is so he can use the interest of things to see what the weather is doing.I,m assuming this is ultimately for a higher purpose,because I,m pretty sure just looking out of the window tells me what the weather is.Boys & their toys :rofl:
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Good morning Everyone. I haven't been here for awhile although you have often been in my thoughts.
Today is the first anniversary of my dear husbands sudden and totally unexpected death. I have so many feelings running around my being...I want company, I don't want company...I feel grief stricken and I feel I have moved on a bit...I'm sure you all know where I am in this.
Anyway, I hope today brings all of you some peace, comfort and love.
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:hug: :hug: :hug: On the first anniversary I booked the day off and decided to just let the day play out as the mood took me -no obligation to speak to anyone if i chose not too. In the end i spent the day alone but went for a walk sat in the church where his funeral was and spent a long time down by the river -in the october i had planted daffodil bulbs down there and they were just coming through - then lit a candle in the garden in the evening -in the end the day wasnt as bad as i was dreading.Ignoring it -or trying too -would i think have been worse.