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Re: My Wife passed 7 months ago
« Reply #90 on: July 18, 2017, 02:36:16 PM »
Well, I went out in the 30 degree heat, went into the post office, luckily no one in front of me, then walked up the high street to the bank, again, nobody in front of me, obviously timed it just right today.
Came back absolutely dripping, but I went, I must admit, I was going to put it off until tomorrow morning, but I thought, if I don't go now, I probably won't feel like going in the morning.

It would have been a better experience if it wasn't so hot, but been there, done it. ✔️✔️

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Re: My Wife passed 7 months ago
« Reply #91 on: July 18, 2017, 07:19:53 PM »
I'm feeling alot better thanks, although the after effects seem to be lingering as I was gradually losing my voice/going hoarse on a phonecall today  :huh:

Glad the chain thought was helpful/following your thoughts, will keep the rings close to you then.  :-) great to hear you got out for a bit, another achievement accomplished.  On the grief journey is good to acknowledge, as some things can take alot of energy or willpower

It is much too muggy again, it was nice in the garden earlier but bit stifling indoors - have put the fan on! Xx
Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise. 
Hold on in there xx

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Re: My Wife passed 7 months ago
« Reply #92 on: July 18, 2017, 07:39:36 PM »
Hi Emz, It is very overcast here now, I really hope it rains this time, can't stand much more of this heat, even with the fan on, after a while, it's just blowing round warm air.
 Yes, it was a really good idea about the chain, i will probably buy myself one for my birthday.

It was nice to go out today, but I was glad to come back, but in away I wasn't , as I had to come back to the silence and emptiness again. xx

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Re: My Wife passed 7 months ago
« Reply #93 on: July 18, 2017, 08:14:12 PM »
I have Keith's wedding ring on my finger with my wedding and engagement rings.But they go on a chain when I go to za.out of sight. I also have Marks ring on my other hand.
I think its great you listened to your body /mind rather than just plough on.Its early days and a big decision ,so maybe she was telling you not to do it because she didn't want you too or maybe because she didn't want you to do something irreversible right now,and then torture yourself even more by worrying if you did the right thing.

According to the Express the weather is going to gradually get warmer again and then in August a solar flare is going to hit the earth and create the hottest temperatures ever recorded.But I wouldn't worry too much because according to the express last winter was going to be apocalyptic too.Solar flares don't " hit " the earth.On the plus side they do sometimes create good conditions for Northern light activity.

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« Reply #94 on: July 18, 2017, 08:46:31 PM »
Hi Karena,
Janice had such small hands, I could just about get her rings on the nail of my little finger.
I think the reason that Janice, did not want me to do it, was , both her rings are antique, and when she started to wear the two together, the engagement ring kept turning round, so the jeweller, that sold them to us, suggested welding the two together, which he did, they were excellent.

Then about four years ago , Janice had to go into hospital, while she was in there, her fingers became very swollen, so the sister on the ward, decided, that they would have to cut her rings off.
Well, two hours later, using a ring cutting machine and two nurses, the Ward sister and me, taking it in turns,eventually managed to cut though it, but we ended up having to cut it, into three pieces, to get it off.

While Janice was in hospital, I took a rough size of her finger, as it was still quite swollen, I took the pieces of the ring, to the jeweller, we bought them from and within a couple of days, he had put it all back together. The only problem was, when Janice came out of hospital, we found that the ring was much to big, I took it to the jeweller had it made smaller, still to big, had it made smaller again.

So, I can really understand now, as those rings had so much history, Janice would want them to now, stay in one piece, so it does really make sense to me and I am so pleased that I asked her, before going ahead with it.

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Re: My Wife passed 7 months ago
« Reply #95 on: July 18, 2017, 10:25:49 PM »
 :hug: I am pleased you did too.

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« Reply #96 on: July 19, 2017, 10:13:13 AM »
Hi Karena,
Thank you, I feel so much better for asking Janice.

Well, so much for the rain, yes we had the thunder, yes we had the lightening, yes we had ONLY FIVE MINUTES OF RAIN. Just can't believe this, this is the second time this has happened in a few weeks, we just are not getting any rain, it's not cooling down.

Have a good day xx

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« Reply #97 on: July 19, 2017, 12:24:42 PM »
Karena,
I have also decided, that I am going to get an Angel tattoo, with the words " Beneath my wings " as this was one of Janice's favourite songs and had it played at her funeral

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Re: My Wife passed 7 months ago
« Reply #98 on: July 19, 2017, 08:01:15 PM »
Is that wind beneath my wings.Love that song but was definitely a meltdown one,I can listen too it now though.
Another one that still gets me is REM everybody hurts.just this week at work,we normally time a break with popmaster and just the first few bars were played but it threw me on the first note..I guess I got good at not showing it now.
Today has been muggy here and it got really dark about an hour ago,I thought it was going to thunder I even had the pre thunder headache,but a couple of sharp showers is all that's happened so far.
Going to a pub quiz tonight,can't really be bothered but never mind I will just have to make the effort.

On the plus front someone gave me their fridge freezer.Mine has been playing up for months now so at least I won't have to worry about all my fruit going off.Its been a mega year for black currents,and looks like it will be for plums too.
The owl and dolphin picture is the design I made for a tatoo.Just never plucked up the courage to get it done,still trying to decide where considering one of my daughters is going to go ape if she sees it,Supposed to be the other way round with kids.

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Re: My Wife passed 7 months ago
« Reply #99 on: July 19, 2017, 08:20:47 PM »
Karena, Go for the tattoo, you have designed it, go for it, why not. I have got eight, so this will be my ninth, mind you , the last one I had done, was about 30 years ago, so the prices have obviously gone up since then. Our son, had a full sleeve done on his arm about 4 years ago, he paid £700 for it, we could not believe it when he told us, more money than sense.
But I just want a nice little Angel or Angel wings, with the words " Beneath my wings " .

Enjoy your quiz night. Pleased you can now keep all your fruit, plenty of pies I expect , blackcurrent and apple pie, lovely. xx

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Re: My Wife passed 7 months ago
« Reply #100 on: July 19, 2017, 08:39:57 PM »
Crumbles Woody.Much easier than pastry.Already had a gooseberry and strawberry one.and raspberry puree in natural yogurt for breakfast.See I start the day off healthilly,its just the rest of the day that it all goes downhill.Spinach is looking about ready for picking in the next few days and I make a mean cream cheese and spinach pasty.Spinach is healthy,shame about the rest of that combo.But I might treat my self at the weekend,its MOT day tomorrow so I will be either celebrating which always seems to involve calories,or comfort eating,which also bizarly seems to involve calories. :rofl: right better get shifting got my handbag but my brains arnt in there,so I,will just have to hope they turn up.That's the trouble with something so tiny just can't keep track.Ah there  in my pocket under the door key.Goodnight.

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Re: My Wife passed 7 months ago
« Reply #101 on: July 19, 2017, 10:09:49 PM »
Karena, That all sounded lovely, until you got to the Spinach bit, then it went wrong for me, I hate Spinach and mushrooms.
I really hope all goes well with the MOT tomorrow, I am sure it will be fine.

Hope you have a good quiz night, what are your favourite subjects ? Not that I have ever been in a pub quiz, but my favourite subject would be Music, bands, songs of the 1960's, fairly good at geography average general knowledge.

Fingers crossed for tomorrow xx

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Re: My Wife passed 7 months ago
« Reply #102 on: July 19, 2017, 10:42:46 PM »
Go get the tattoo karena!!  Lets book an impromptu meet, I'll come and be your support :-)  my latest tattoo will be 3 years old in Nov and whenever I look at it I still love it as much as the day I had it!  My advice with tattoos is to sit with the design for a while to make sure you definitely like it (which i think you have :-) ) and choose a good artist - check out their work and chat to them, make sure you feel comfortable with their attitude (I changed artists as the first one would not listen to what I wanted - I clearly explained a Siamese fighting fish of a certain size and he drew a koi which would have covered my entire thigh!!)

I smiled re the pub quiz, I'm usually only any good with food questions :-)

Hope your day has been ok Woody.  I too hope it will cool down a bit soon xx
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« Reply #103 on: July 19, 2017, 11:31:21 PM »
HI Emz,
There is a new tattooist , just opened a few months ago, just round the corner from me, have seen some of her work, looks good. As I said the last one I had done was about 30 years ago, I have eight.

I know years ago, there a lot of " Scratchers " around, also some very unhygienic places, using the same needles over and over. This will be my last one, As at 67, I think I will be to old for anymore.

Still very humid , had all the symptoms of the storm last night, but only about five minutes of drizzle rain.
Did you design your last tattoo ?  I just want something that Janice, would really appreciate and will be a real tribute to her. I want an Angel with " Wind beneath my wings " or just " Beneath my wings "
Or just Angel wings, with the writing, not sure yet   xx

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Re: My Wife passed 7 months ago
« Reply #104 on: July 20, 2017, 06:53:57 AM »
Have a play with designs and see which one feels right.

What are your other tattoos?

My dad always kept tropical fish, taught me alot and I then also kept them for many years. I wanted something in memory of dad and that's one of the things we shared, I also wanted this tattoo to be in colour.  Initially I had chosen an angel fish, as we both kept them.  I printed one off and kept looking at it and considering. Over time I realised it didn't feel quite right and came upon the idea of the siamese fighting fish. I knew that would show movement and colour.

I collated and printed off some fish for reference,  to capture the elements I liked and felt right.  I found the first artist via recommendation but we didn't get on, he wouldn't listen and I just felt like a canvas and didn't trust him to actually do what I wanted, (his version looked like a koi and was surrounded by a huge, blocky background) so I went back to the artist I used for my 2nd tattoo, even though she specialises in black & white. She had moved studios so was longer travel but so glad I did, I showed her the pictures, she liked the concept enough to agree to colour work and she told me she would draw it for the day of the appt. When I arrived she had captured it perfectly, exactly what I wanted. I left the colours for her to compile on the day - and really pleased with the result. So the choice of artist is definitely important  :smiley:

Oops, I'm rambling - woke up early from a nightmare at 5:30, couldn't get back to sleep, so more time on my hands for chatting/typing!

Hope your day goes OK  xx
Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise. 
Hold on in there xx