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Kes1968:
Feeling depressed, combination of things really, bumpy start with Max,bless him he’s a dear little soul and I’m sure things will work out, it has made me question whether I was really ready for such a massive commitment and whether I had rushed into things, I’ll have to see how things go, he’s a dear little character, tummy upset, both of us and sleeping downstairs, worrying about him not liking being picked up, lack of human social contact for me and he’s obviously missing his mother and siblings. I’m making the best of it and I’m sure way down the line I’ll wonder what I ever worried about, he’ll be a super companion. It’s just me being selfish😭😭😭😭😭

Kes1968:
I don’t want to give him up, 😭😭😭

Emz2014:
Try your best to relax with him.  Dogs are like little sponges, they absorb so much from us and pick up on emotions/feelings. If you're feeling stressed worrying about him, he's going to pick up that you're stressed/worried but he won't know how to respond to that, he'll be feeling a bit confused

I still find it now, if I'm stressed about going into work, even if I dont say or do anything particular my dog picks up on it and will have a restless night, getting me up to go to the toilet early hours of the morning.  My old dog would also sense it, if I was upset she'd come and snuggle into me.  They all have their different ways/responses, you are still learning about each other at the moment

Try not to focus on the picking him up, he's learning his independence (bit like a toddler), try and turn it into a fun inquisitive thing, explore being down at his level. Maybe get a comfy pillow or beanbag, closer to his level he will gain confidence in clambering on or around you. As he gets older I'm sure he will learn how comfy sofas are!  I had an alsatian cross years ago, she was never one for lying on the sofa or on my bed, but she gave the best cuddles - she'd walk up to me, put her head in my lap and wrap a front paw/leg around my legs

Its easier said than done, but try to relax.  Let things develop and be curious to watch all his personality quirks.  You're doing all the right things, getting some training/advice, try to loosen the grip a little and relax into it. Watch his little personality grow and shine.  You'll have a wonderful companion there  :hearts:  :hearts:

And we're always here for support and guidance xx

Emz2014:
And as soon as he has his jabs you can do puppy classes to meet others, and when out for walks you'll get to know others.  Dogs are great conversation starters!

How about joining a dog group on facebook? I'm a member of one and everyone chats about their dogs, shares photos, and share tips.  Will get you started chatting more and some groups organise walk meets  :hug: xx

Kes1968:
I’m missing my mum too and yesterday I made the mistake of looking at photos of my old home, which made me wistful for my old life with mum and Harry, when I didn’t have a care in the world, well that’s not strictly true but I’m being silly and should be thankful for all that I do have , including little Max here

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