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Title: Loss of wife
Post by: gary83619 on July 10, 2018, 02:53:23 AM
I lost my wife 2 years ago to mnd (als) (motor neurones disease) I am 35 now was 33 and my wife was a little older than me at 59 of the age of her passing.  May I just say age was never the issue we loved each other as if we were 22 years each/55 years each. We we’re kindred spirits   I looked after her as her illness took it’s toll. 2 years from diagnosis. May I also add I knew her that well that I diagnosed her 6 months before any docs or consultants.  I don’t know how to move on my friends, her and her family want/ wanted me too. I now struggle to communicate with people.  It’s almost like hope ya all seen it.  Micheal Myers film     I lost my mojo.  She was my heart my soul and everything I wanted in life now I’m alone. And struggling with everyday communication
Title: Re: Loss of wife
Post by: Emz2014 on July 10, 2018, 07:42:24 AM
Sending you a welcome hug  :hug:  you will find friendly people here who understand, everyone has lost someone xx
Title: Re: Loss of wife
Post by: GHOST on July 10, 2018, 05:44:46 PM
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Title: Re: Loss of wife
Post by: heabscot on July 12, 2018, 11:26:43 PM
I have just lost my wife of 20 years, she was 60 and i’m 40. Age was never an issue in our relationship as we loved each other unconditionally and was my soulmate ❤️. I’m scared of moving forward because i feel lost without her, like i don’t know who iam anymore. I have really bad anxiety when going to bed and sometimes wait till it’s light. She was my best friend and now i don’t have that anymore. I never really thought i would affect me so much in the manner it has, your confidence is shot, your anger resonates in even the most trivial of situations. I’m a Paramedic and have dealt with the other side of this in acute or end of life scenarios but nothing prepares you for how grief affects you as it’s so personal. There are all sorts of models of grief but no one grief is the same, it’s just how we personallly deal with it i suppose, based on our own experiences, opinions and expectations.
Title: Re: Loss of wife
Post by: Emz2014 on July 13, 2018, 08:38:10 AM
Grief is such a surprise, we are never told what to expect and even if we were taught, the intensity and volume of our personal grief would still take us by surprise.  Emotions so strong you feel the pain of loss as a physical pain, the flow of emotions taking over every aspect of your life.  Time does help but it can feel such a slow journey - I certainly feel a different 'me' now

There are many similarities yet our journeys are unique. I think the strength of this forum is the shared experience, everyone at different stages helping each other on this rollercoaster  :hearts: xx