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Please Post In This Bereavement Support Posting Room / Re: This is horrendous
« Last post by Twinkle on December 16, 2017, 05:45:55 PM »
Thank you too, am scared it really is never going to get any better,  but so so grateful for this group and this last weekend and this week I don't know where to go from here everything seems so pointless...
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Please Post In This Bereavement Support Posting Room / Re: Dad
« Last post by Lyn Taylor on December 16, 2017, 05:14:04 PM »
Hi Karena thank you for your reply, I do have a couple of close friends who will be there with me for support. I am not attending the wake after as I couldn't face my brother or mother as would not trust myself not to say something and the day is about dad! I have thought of what you say about creating my own memory of dad after the funeral when I have hopefully got to grip with some of these emotions that just engulf me. Managed to go out the house today, first time since dad passed! I went to the hairdressers as my hair was a mess and I was dreading it because of all the Christmas conversations but I actually found comfort in the normalness of it all and a belief that life does go on xx
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General Discussion / Re: That first Christmas
« Last post by Karena on December 16, 2017, 02:26:21 PM »
 :hug: Marie,no need to apologise at all.My heart goes out to you having so much to contend with.Your boxing day idea sounds lovely.My daughters are in their thirties and live at opposite sides of the world so having them both together in the same room is very rare,thank goodness for whatsapp which at least means we can chat.
Thankyou for your Christmas wishes I hope your day turns out to be better than you are anticipating.Often with things like anniversary's and Christmas the anticipation does turn out to be worse than the day itself. I doubt I will be home before five,but if you post during the day,others may be here and I will see it and reply later.
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Please Post In This Bereavement Support Posting Room / Re: This is horrendous
« Last post by Karena on December 16, 2017, 01:53:49 PM »
 :hug: I think we are programmed in the age of science and technology to want definitive answers and yet I feel life would be much less meaningful if there were no mysterys,and more recently quantum physics has shown that some of the things we have grown up with as being indisputable fact are disputable.So I think its important not too close our minds too any possabiliys.
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Please Post In This Bereavement Support Posting Room / Re: Dad
« Last post by Karena on December 16, 2017, 01:43:46 PM »
 :hug: It takes a long time and its a bit of a rollercoaster journey,but the acute pain  of the early days does lessen .
Your boys sound like a proper handful and I,m sure will occupy your time fully,but try and make some time for yourself too.One thing that I believe is that it is important our children know about their roots,so maybe creating a memory box with them might help,because in talking about them,passing on their wisdom or the little funny traits they had,or funny stories about life with them,We start gradually to focus on their love and life not just their  loss.
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Please Post In This Bereavement Support Posting Room / Re: Dad
« Last post by Karena on December 16, 2017, 01:33:56 PM »
 :hug: family rifts can be awful.I recently went too a funeral where there were separate wakes,although they did manage to get through the funeral service itself without open battle.Do you have a friend who would go with you just to be there for you.Also,I think maybe you could create your own tribute too him later without their involvement Something meaningful to you.Maybe a small garden area or plant a tree or create a memory box.There are a lot of things  you could do like those and maybe focussing on something personal too you might help take the edge off the feeling of being outcast from making funeral arrangements.
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Please Post In This Bereavement Support Posting Room / Re: Dad
« Last post by Lyn Taylor on December 16, 2017, 08:47:33 AM »
My heart goes out to everyone who is going through this. It's early days for me still. My dad's funeral is next Tuesday. I am walking round like a zombie with no sense of reality. Days and nights just seem to merge together and every hour seems to drag on forever. I feel like I am bobbing along out at sea with no purpose. All I cling to is knowing that my dad is at peace xx
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Please Post In This Bereavement Support Posting Room / Dad
« Last post by Smellemmy on December 16, 2017, 03:04:23 AM »
I lost my dad on the 15th November. It was a massive shock. I just feel so overwhelmed and alone. I don't see how I am ever going to feel any better about this. He is all I think about and with two young boys of my own to look after (4months & 2.5years) I feel like I can't cope & I'm drowning.
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Please Post In This Bereavement Support Posting Room / Re: Dad
« Last post by Emz2014 on December 15, 2017, 07:57:07 PM »
Grief is a bit of a rollercoaster, there are lots of emotions and they dont necessarily work through in an orderly fashion either.  Anger is a normal part of grief. Although we all have an individual journey personal to us, you will always find someone here who has been through similar or the same emotion.  It does help to know you're not alone on this journey, no matter how lonely it feels at times

Be gentle with yourself, it is best to take it one day at a time right now xx
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Please Post In This Bereavement Support Posting Room / Re: Dad
« Last post by Lyn Taylor on December 15, 2017, 09:38:28 AM »
Thank you for welcoming me and and replying. I feel so alone in this world at the moment and just trying to function and deal with my own emotions. I pleaded with them to pull together for dad but they still refused to communicate. I am dreading the funeral and having to face them. Dad and I were so very close, he was my best friend, my protector and my guiding light and I feel so helpless. I feel for everyone on here who has experienced this life changing loss and I want to move out of this anger I feel so I can grieve for my dad, I welcome any advice of what I can expect during the grieving stage as I am so scared of what I am going through xx
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