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Re: My Wife passed 7 months ago
« Reply #105 on: July 20, 2017, 11:08:37 AM »
Morning Emz,
First off, I would like to say, you were not rambling, I think it's great, just to say whatever you have got to say, it's brilliant.
I am pleased that you got your tattoo done by someone that you could trust and not some Egoist.

I have various ones, Eagles, hearts, Roses, Swallows, even playing cards, so a real mixed bag, but I want this one, to really have meaning and to be special.

Actually rained here this morning, not for long though, has got hot and humid again, the rain, did no good at all.
Have a good day xx

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« Reply #106 on: July 20, 2017, 04:11:23 PM »
Thanks Woody. I hope the process of searching for/working on the design for your tattoo goes well. Great there's a tattooist close-by,  makes it easier to have those conversations.  Will look forward to seeing your final design. (if you're happy to share it of course)  I'm sure you will know the right one/combination when you find it.  Get doodling and perhaps some Google search for elements. I'm sure there'll be lots of variations on angels and wings 
Have you decided where to have it? 

It was a bit cooler here this morning but the sun is out now and despite quite a wind it is very hot and sticky. I've been on a training course, was quite random in the way it was run/structured (Im not sure there was a structure! Often the tutor even seemed unsure of the next bit/making stuff up/bouncing from topics lol!) but there  has been useful elements to take away and the benefit of a network of people for support now too.  It was supposed to finish at 4 so yesterday I arranged to meet my car share at 4:30 - only for the course to finish early at 2!  So, rather then mess around arrangements I popped into town, picked up a few things I knew I'd have to get on the weekend (the non glamorous shopping like dog poo bags lol!) and also did a little shop for myself (oops lol!)  also picked up a cute t-shirt for my nephew and one for my niece, I have Monday as annual leave and meeting my sister, the kids and my mum for a day at the zoo so thought it might be nice to have a little something for them

Hope you are managing to keep cool and have a fan handy. Maybe this calls for a trip to the shop and indulge in some ice cream for pudding tonight!

Mmm talking about food, as I still have 20 minutes to pass may start thinking about dinner options for tonight!

I hope your day has been as ok as it can be.  Did you get out today? xx
Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise. 
Hold on in there xx

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Re: My Wife passed 7 months ago
« Reply #107 on: July 20, 2017, 05:55:30 PM »
Hi Emz, Could i please ask what you do , as you say you have been on a training course, don't worry if you don't want to say, just interested.

Well, all outside parts of my arms are full up, so, it will be on the left, inner forearm. I have done a google search for Angel tattoos, so far, I have not been impressed by what I have seen, some are very dark, I don't mean in colour dark, I mean dark, as in not what you expect Angels to look like. Some of them are very evil and vicious looking, not the type of Angel I want at all, I want an Angel that looks like the Angel we all know.

No, I haven't been out today, have been printing some photos and framing them. See what the weather does tomorrow, may try and go out, if it's not to hot and humid. xx

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Re: My Wife passed 7 months ago
« Reply #108 on: July 20, 2017, 06:42:53 PM »
Just rung the mechanic in a panic thinking it was bad news,he collected it at lunchtime and I hadn't heard back.Turns out that's because it isn't booked in until the morning.doh.

Pub quiz defo music but I,m better at 70, s than 60,s unless its Motown.Hopeless at 80, s better at 90,s and this century unless its one of the bands like,kaiser chiefs,killers,stereophonics etc or Adelle,I havn the foggiest.Geography fairly good except flags.Literature and art not too bad.history not good,politics OK.Sport and films not the faintest idea.We didn't win last night though.

For me its a good way of going out.don't have to worry about small talk or dressing up.plus it keeps the grey matter working.I just beat the chaser.(from the sofa ).

Good luck searching for your Angel Woody.I,m just wondering if you might have more luck searching for a fairy then adapting it or even cherub.Or a fairy face on one of the angel bodies.If you have components I could Photoshop them together maybe.



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« Reply #109 on: July 20, 2017, 07:00:09 PM »
This training course was a union one, as I've recently volunteered to be the welfare officer.  My usual job is finance specialist, but not in the sense of accountant etc, I also do alot of engagement and communications. It's quite varied.  :smiley:

Good luck for your mot karena, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!

I used to go to a pub quiz with some friends years ago, but the pub stopped doing them.  Initially I always wondered why I couldn't get to sleep until early hours of the morning after them then realised it was likely the bowl of sweets which were on the table combined with several glasses of coke! Lol.  A few years ago I did go to a different pub quiz with some old work colleagues but they only run them in the winter and once we had the first break we never got back into the routine.   Always had fun on them though - is a nice, low pressure social situation (I recall winning a bottle or two in the raffles too!)

For the tattoo inspiration, there's so many different things you can adapt too I think,  depending on what style you like. on the theme of karenas thought there are many characters out there which could be used as a basis idea to build up from perhaps - I love the characters by Santano called 'gorjuss' (if you search 'Santano gorjuss' you'll easily find them) - I adore them, they may possibly be a bit girly for what you are looking for, but could help to widen your search :-) a good artist will certainly be able to build from different inspiration points and add elements xx
Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise. 
Hold on in there xx

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Re: My Wife passed 7 months ago
« Reply #110 on: July 20, 2017, 07:17:46 PM »
Hi Karena,
I did wonder, last night, when you said it was MOT day today, as i remember you saying last week, that it was due on the 24th, so I assumed, that you had brought it forward.

The Kaiser chiefs I like, I can only think of two of their records, obviously the most well known ones, Ruby, Ruby, and I predict a riot, I like their style of music, although I can't name any others.

I played drums, in bands, in the 1960's, did a stint as Elvis, in the 1980's early 1990's, play bass guitar now, taught my Granddaughter to play drums, when she was 6 she is 15 now and quite good.
Played tenor sax for a couple of years, always loved music, ever since, I had Violin lessons for two years at school, instead of double maths every Friday. Have a vast record collection, all 50's and 60's though. Went to Camberwell college of art, when I left school, to study photography, worked for British Lion films after leaving college, worked in the art dept, hated it, then did an apprenticeship as a carpenter and joiner. Got a a bit carried away there, but that's a bit about me, that was like writing one of CV things they do now days xx

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« Reply #111 on: July 20, 2017, 09:07:48 PM »
I played piano from being small but it was classical and I didn't appreciate practising when my friends were playing outside.Then I did Clarinet at school,got as far as the county youth orchestra.I always really wanted to play Sax but never did until Keith bought me one.I loved it.I still have it,but unfortunately had an accident when felling a tree and smashed my  teeth so I can't play it.Never got far with guitar but i have a couple and my eldest grandson always took an interest so i bought him a 3 quarter one and i,m paying for lessons.I have promised him Marks electric guitar when he,s older.
Madly and on an impulse I bought a penny whistle a couple of weeks ago.Not the same at all but at least I can blow it.I can say with absolute conviction I would have enjoyed piano much more given the chance to play it instead of maths.Maths and I have hated each other all my life. :rofl:

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« Reply #112 on: July 20, 2017, 09:30:47 PM »
Hi Karena,
What real great shame, that you can't play the Sax anymore, did you play an Alto or Tenor ?
 I have always loved the sound of the Tenor Sax, as I think it is the closest sound to the human voice.
I had lessons for two years, with a guy who played Tenor Sax in the Scots Guards band. I was worried, when I first went for my lesson, as I wondered if I would have enough puff, to play it, but then soon realised, you don't need puff to play, as it is a reed instrument and basically played with your tongue.

I loved playing the Sax, tried an Alto, didn't like it, tried to play a soprano, but could not get a note out of it, the ligature is so tight, very hard to play. When I was reading through your message , I got very worried, as you mentioned the Sax and tree felling, I thought that you might have got fed up with the Sax, and decided to use it for tree felling. Obviously, the greatest Sax solo ever, was in Baker Street by Jerry Rafferty, always love to hear that. But the all time great, has to be Charlie Parker xx

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« Reply #113 on: July 20, 2017, 09:59:46 PM »
Hi Emz,
Just seen your post, we must have posted at the same time earlier, that's why I missed it.
Was your training course just for the day? I think you will find being the welfare officer a very worthwhile and varied job. Janice, was a welfare officer, for the MS society, for 14 years, she really enjoyed it.
I have had a look at Santoro Gorjuss designs, must admit not really me, they are very similar to Mabel Lucie Attwell, but I did like some of her work.
Think I might just get the tattooist to draw something for me, if I explain what I want.

Yes, I think the bowl of sweets disappearing and only selling cokes, might have been the reason the pub did not have quizzes anymore, I have never been to one, so people take them very serious though.
Sorry that I am late in replying to your post xx

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« Reply #114 on: July 21, 2017, 07:59:03 PM »
Mine was alto sax Woody.I certainly didn't get fed up of it.I didn't get fed up of thevtree either but we have dry stone walls here and one behind the tree was in danger of falling on my neighbours grandkids.But to rebuild it the tree had to go down to the ground.Its regrown unfortunately teeth don't.What I should have done was get someone in,but no,I though I could handle it.cut it the right way all by the book but because there was limited space it could fall into and I was trying to guide it I  didn't account for the weight bringing the bottom end up like it did much quicker than I could move.Stupid thing was getting my face sorted cost more in dentist bills than getting some one in to do the job properly.Lesson learned. :whistle:


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« Reply #115 on: July 21, 2017, 09:04:25 PM »
Hi Karena,
You are not the first and you certainly won't be the last, we all do stupid things at one time or other, we always think we know best, it's, Yeah, I can do that, no problem...........................Ooops.

We had a 110 county Landrover years ago, we had a high top roof fitted to it, with the intention of getting Janice, into the back, on her four wheeled buggy. I had a huge winch fitted, just behind the front seats, had a ramp fitted to the back, what could possibly go wrong, well, I obviously had to try it before Janice went up on it. So, the Landrover was in our garage, which was in a place out of view to anyone. I hooked the cable from the winch, up to the front of the buggy, I got on the buggy, with the remote control, for the winch, as it started to go up the ramp, all was fine, until the front wheels got onto the floor of the Landrover, then it all went wrong, as the front was very light and the back of the buggy had the motor and the batteries in, the front went right up in the air, the cable to the winch was so taught, that the remote control, could not let it down, I was stuck up in the air , facing up to the sky, I was trapped and could not get it down, l was up about six foot, could not climb out of it as the ramp was basically the same width as the buggy, I didn't know what to do, nobody around, nobody could see me, good job they couldn't in a way, otherwise I would have been on you tube. Anyway in the end, I had to throw myself out of it, and hit the ground with a very large thump, so guess what, the Landrover went. So the moral to this story is, you are never alone, when there are stupid things to do xx

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« Reply #116 on: July 22, 2017, 09:35:39 PM »
 :rofl:I know i shouldn't laugh woody,and thank goodness you tried it out first.It seems to me we both have calculation problems when It comes too the laws of physics.
I said Alto sax last night clearly not concentrating its tenor sax. I do apologise.
Good news today is MOT done,with a couple of minor issues sorted out.The MOT guy who has been the same for the last 3 years expressed surprise at its return,apparently his words were this thing must be glued together with love. If only he knew how true that is.I do know though that an MOT pass isn't the same as a non problem vehicle,so I,m going to leave it until the end of the camping season and get the mechanic to have a good look to see if we can prempt a bit of rot and oil spray underneath for winter.Meanwhile I will have some artsy fun with the mismatched paint.I think I might get some decal letters and spell out glued together with love along the roof,I like that as a slogan.

Anyway camping gear is loaded ready for next weekend.Sounds a bit early but I keep it at work so loading from the house is a problem but  I spotted the neighbours had gone out,grabbed my chance,accidently moved their illegal bollards and grabbed the part of public road they imagine is their private property for half an hour.

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« Reply #117 on: July 22, 2017, 10:23:58 PM »
Hi Karena,
Don't worry about laughing, we both used to laugh about it so much, I am just so glad that nobody saw me, even though I was in a great predicament. It was like a sketch from "Some mothers do Ave em " I am so pleased you camper got through the MOT , it is such a great weight lifted, when you are handed that piece of paper, it's like the Gold ticket to Willy Wonkas Chocolate Factory.
Where are you going camping, did I hear you mention the New Forest, can't remember now, I have been asleep since then.
I think that is a really great name for your camper, a name with real meaning and loads of memories, I think it's fantastic, would love to see some pics, when you have done it.
Was quite surprised today, it actually rained here for a couple of hours, but wasn't long before it got hot again.
Had a nice surprise yesterday, had a text from my Daughter, asking if I would like to go out with her and my Granddaughters for Fish and chips, so, I said yes, would love to, haven't seen them for five weeks, so we went to the best fish and chip restaurant in town, they are really great there, really nice and fresh. Anyway, I really enjoyed it, not often can get them all together, normally one or other is doing something, but now, they have broken up for the summer, I will be looking after them, while my Daughter goes to work, that sounds so silly, looking after them, they are 15 and 12, be more like, them looking after me. But I love seeing them, they are off to Spain on August 9th, which is my birthday, when the youngest one heard, that was the day, they were going away, she said, I am not going then, she said I am not going away on Grandads birthday, which I thought, was very nice, they are lovely kids. The oldest one, went to Barcelona, a couple of months ago, on a student exchange with the school, she was texting me everyday, asking " Are you ok Grandad "  she brought me a Flamenco dancers fridge magnet back, which I thought was lovely. xx

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« Reply #118 on: July 23, 2017, 04:58:44 PM »
Well at 12 and 15 they will probably not appreciate thinking they're being looked after,but at the same time enjoy it.Will be nice to spend time with them anyway.Fish and chips sounds lovely,I,m jealous.But at the same time somewhere like that would definitely not be good for my calorie intake so perhaps just as well there isn't one anywhere nearby.So instead I,m having veg stew some of which will be turned into bean Chile and frozen to take camping.

I,m going to Cumbria,New forest would definitely be too far for a weekend.Going to camp at a regular spot,its not actually a site,but the council withdrew support and were selling off the viallge hall and grounds including a football pitch bowling green and field.So the village got together and bought it but obviously need money to keep it going.We clubbed together and paid for hookups to run from the floodlights and pay to camp to raise money.So usually there bank holidays and a few summer weekends.This one there,s a steam fair a couple of miles away.Usual steam rollers vintage cars and old fairground rides,beerctent stalls etc.I have taken the eldest grandson and was going to take next one down this year.

But the lady who organises the camping lost her husband very recently,so its going to be a bit if a wake,and she might not want to go to the actual fair,so if that's the case I will stay with her.
Also he has ADHD and aspergers and is going to a new school next term,so is very unsettled at the moment so I,m going on my own.He didn't know I was thinking of taking him so he won't be upset about it.I,all take him next year.


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« Reply #119 on: July 23, 2017, 06:01:08 PM »
Hi Karena,
That sounds like a lovely place to go, especially as everyone has contributed to make it a better place, sounds great. I am sorry to hear about your Grandson, it must be a very worrying time for him, knowing he is going to a new school, not really knowing what to expect. I hope that there will be some of his friends, also going to the new school with , there is nothing worse, than having to go to a new school on your own and try to make new friends, I know how hard that is, been there, done it, got the T shirt.
Chilli, I do love chilli, but I make it for the five thousand, I make it in a huge sauspan and then freeze it, always find, that it tastes better the following day. I still can't get used to the idea, of just cooking for one, I still cook, for two or more.
Have just had an experience, that I hadn't thought of, until today, it's one of our friends 70th birthday, next week, so I went onto Moonpig, to get a card for him, after I had got it how I wanted it, I came to the part, who it's from, so I automatically, put, from Janice and Dave, then, I had the thought, I still want to put Janice on cards, but some people, might be offended or feel uncomfortable, so I stopped doing the card and sent his wife a text, telling her the position, she is very understanding, she is also a Spiritualist and was a really great friend to Janice, she replied , saying by all means put janice on the card, as she might not be here physically, but Janice is still here and all the years you were together, you can't just exclude her, so I thanked them both, for their understanding, so I have done the card and put from Janice and Dave, I didn't want it any other way, but I thought it only right to ask. But I expect, that there is going to be many more of these FIRSTS.

Steam rollers, steam engines, excellent, really love steam, miss the steam railways, but I live very close to the Bluebell railway, so might get to go on it one day. The Flying Scotsman, was there a couple of months ago, would liked to have seen that, but obviously I didn't .sounds like you are going to have a great weekend xx