Hello. Not sure if this is the place to introduce myself

[Rolande]

Hi
My husband passed away 9 weeks ago. I thought I would get a little better by now..but if anything, I'm worse. When do I stop crying? When can I go out and not feel like an idiot starting crying all over the place?

[Dave Administrator]

Hello Rolande and welcome to this forum.

Goodness me 9 weeks is no time whatsoever to think you would be feeling remotely any different I can assure you of that.

Bereavement is often referred to as a roller coaster ride with its ups and downs twists and curves, and nothing describes it better than than I'm my opinion.

There is a lot of love and understanding of how you are feeling right now with our other members going through the same at different stages, and writing down all your most inner emotions here with no one to judge you are steps in the healing process you must go through.

Though hard for you to believe right now Rolande, you will grow stronger each day without you realising it and peace will gradually return to your days again.

Please don't stop posting, this group is here for you all the way I promise.

[Rolande]

Thank you for your reply.
I bought the little book "Tips for widows" but can't get pass the first page! What a mess I am.
It's good to be part of this group. I feel less alone
Thank you

[longedge]

Hello Rolande, my condolences on your very recent loss. I don't think anyone will try to guess how your grief will ease or change as time goes by because we are all so different although I think we all have the same emotions, feelings and reactions at one time or another, months or so I've heard even years apart. Keep talking, most people find it helps and when eventually you have the odd good day make sure you make the best of it.

[Rolande]

Thank you George. Very kind of you
I'm going to look after my grand kids for the week end. They help a little..

[Norma]

Hi Rolande sending you a welcome hug xx

 

Please dont try to rush things hun a favourite saying of ours on here is baby steps, take each, minute, hour, day as it comes.

Keep posting xxx

[longedge]

I'm going to look after my grand kids for the week end. They help a little..

That's what I fnd as well although I don't have to look after them really, rather the opposite actually. The eldest told me a few weeks ago he is going to 'promote' me to great grandad  .

[Rolande]

How wonderful for you! My eldest is 15 and is now almost 6 foot tall. He'll probably look after me really..if he can stay away from his iPad for a minute! His younger  sister is a chatterbox so I'll be entertained

[Hubby]

Hi Rolande. I'm very sorry to hear of your loss.

I remember a family friend telling me that the loss of my wife would hit home after the funeral and I thought they were mad. How could it hit home more than it already had. Of course it did and things got worse. This seems to be a common grieving experience.

Things do slowly start to get easier to cope with.

Wishing you strength