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Offline Geri1961

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I'm heartbroken my partner has gone.
« on: June 10, 2017, 01:35:08 PM »
I am struggling so much since my partner passed away suddenly on 7th May. I can't get out of bed. I have been prescribed stronger medication from my doctor, but really not feeling well. I am totally grief stricken. I know I'm not helping myself but I just don't want. I just sit in our bed doing nothing. I'm so incredibly lost without my Steve. We worked together, lived and socialised together. We were one and lived our lives at 100 miles an hour. There was never a dull moment, we adored each other. I know nothing of life without Steve. I don't know what to do now. I hate this awful pain. I don't get a minute respite, I'm so lost. We had so many plans for our future. He was just 58 and not poorly. I can't except he's gone. I love him and miss him so much. How do I get through this darkness. Its killing me.

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Re: I'm heartbroken my partner has gone.
« Reply #1 on: June 12, 2017, 08:57:24 PM »
So sorry for your loss.  It is hard dealing with the shock. Sending a big hug  :hearts:  do you have any family near you? Xx
Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise. 
Hold on in there xx

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Re: I'm heartbroken my partner has gone.
« Reply #2 on: June 13, 2017, 07:09:29 PM »
Hi Geri, I am very new to this, and don't really know if it will help I lost my partner of 23 years on the 25 April this year, I had never spent a day apart from her except for 4 days I had to work away ,I think that every ones grief, is a very personal journey
There is no quick fix or a time limit ,no right way or no wrong way to deal with this ,But now I try to look at it from a different point of view ,if the tables were turned and it was me that had passed ,and I was able to look down and see her so sad and in so much pain
and I could  not go to her and help her ,I would feel so sad ,but if I seen her smiling a little and still enjoying our love we had, and still have ,I would say that's my girl ,the one I love ,then I could rest in peace knowing she will be ok ,
I find it helps me get through my day ,as I just think this is for her I must get up ,wash, eat, and do a little of my work that I need to do until I can see a way of getting back to work fulltime ,but for now I take it one day at a time who knows,
tomorrow I might smile a little or even cry.
take care

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Re: I'm heartbroken my partner has gone.
« Reply #3 on: June 13, 2017, 08:54:51 PM »
Brian you are absolutely right.I imagined if we met in another life or wherever,and had a conversation,it would be a very short conversation and so resolved to try and live life for both of us.do things we loved to do,things we never got round too and even things he would have liked but I would have sat on,which has on occasion put me in places I would never have gone,but if he is watching or we do meet again I will have lots to tell him or share with him,and if that never happens I will have lost nothing.

But Geri,it does take time to get too thinking like that , and even then setting out to do any of it,planning and taking those steps is a huge thing,So staying in bed is fine and crying is fine,it doesnt make you useless it makes you human so don't be hard on yourself and when you do feel ready to move start with tiny steps.