In the earlier stages and on bad days sometimes we just have to concentrate on one day at a time, or hour by hour even. Just tackle the present moment. Grief takes alot of energy so dont feel bad if you need to stop and rest sometimes. I found sometimes I just needed a dvd day, where i would eat something tasty and just watch films. It gave my mind a rest, a little like escaping temporarily. But its important to also not withdraw and only do that
One thing I found which really helped me was starting to feed the birds in my garden, that has become part of my routine now - i get up, stick the kettle on for my coffee and whilst waiting I throw a handful of food out for the birds. Now they all flock into the apple tree whenever I step in the garden, and a little robin visits daily. Connecting with wildlife and nature has really helped - I think with all the advances of technology we have forgotten the benefits of this connection
Do you have a local park, lake or woods nearby? Making yourself take a walk, preferably around nature, can really help. You could try starting making yourself do it then after a couple of weeks notice if it has helped atall. Try and be present in the moment by noticing details around you - that can help give your mind a rest too, which makes it easier to cope with the emotions the rest of the time
Perhaps think of grief a bit like hibernation, its natural to feel we want to retreat, find a cave and hide away, things feel bleak and hopeless, but hold on in there, seasons always change, after a period of rest there will be a spring again. In the forum we are all in different areas of the cave, we start off deep in the cave, but gradually all move towards the opening as we learn to cope and there's members along the way ready with a helping hand. Always hold on as there will be change to the intensity of these feelings and it will get easier to cope. Xx