Hi all
My mums husband brought a bag of clothes round last night with him and it really upset me. Basically what happened was, my sons nursery school are doing a charity collection of winter woollies, hats, scarfs blankets and anything that will help keep the homeless people warm throughout the winter. I mentioned this to my mums husband and said have you got anything even a few old hats and scarfs of my mums. My mum did a lot of charity work over the years and I know she would have wanted to help. I thought he would bring a few bits round to add to my collection. He turned up last night as he always has tea with us on a Thursday and brought a big bin liner of things including an old coat of my mums and jumpers. I looked it the bag and felt upset, I then tied the top and put it in my conservatory. I think it probably upset him also abit looking through my mums stuff although he didn't say a lot in fact he was very quiet and I told him if he wasn't okay with letting anything go then he could take it back and we would leave it. He insisted that its fine but when he had gone I broke down to my husband and said the bag of clothes was upsetting me and he said he will help me drop it off if I don't want to do it. I don't understand why I have got myself into such a pickle over it. Now I feel like I don't know what to do with the bag. I like doing things for charity and so did my mum, it doesn't change a thing over the fact she is not here anymore and it is only a few of her things, there is mountains of stuff at the house.
I think by not visiting my mums house for several months and not having to look at her clothes/personal possessions I hide myself away from the upset it causes me.
I do have photographs of her round my house, I have her wedding ring in my drawer, I have one of her favourite necklaces and lots of other things that she bought me and I have a chain and engraved locket with her picture in and this I find okay.
Can anyone else relate to this or am I being oversensitive?
Thanks
Louise