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Offline joli

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New Widower Support Needed
« on: November 07, 2018, 06:39:03 PM »
I am a new widower. My wife passed recently, 6 weeks ago.
I know it's very recent and there's a long way to go for me but I didn't realise how bad the pain of grieving was until now.
My wife died on September 21st this year. She was only diagnosed with Lung Cancer on March 5th 2018.
I see a Bereavement Counsellor once a week but I need someone to talk to at times when I feel lonely. This forum is helpful because members are going through the same pain I'm experiencing.

Offline Emz2014

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Re: New Widower Support Needed
« Reply #1 on: November 07, 2018, 08:48:45 PM »
Sending you a welcome hug  :hug:
Hope you find the forum a source of support.   We also have a live chat room in the evenings (I'm not sure what time they start, but you can find the link on our home page)
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Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise. 
Hold on in there xx

Offline Karena

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Re: New Widower Support Needed
« Reply #2 on: November 08, 2018, 10:29:48 AM »
 :hug: seven years since my husband died and of course i still miss him - but the pain of those early days does reduce in time - its a bit of a roller coaster - you think youre doing ok then something slaps you back down again - i think what happens is we learn to live with it rather than "get over it" "move on" or any of the other misguided cliches people throw at us.
Back then i also found this place to be a lifeline -so i hope it will be for you too.On the one hand it is grief that brings us here but we also have the daily chat section - because sometimes its the little things we miss not just the big ones  - the how was your day, whats for tea type conversations, no -one to share sad thoughts, but also the good or funny stuff which increases the lonliness.