Hi my name is Sam, just under 2months ago my sister gave birth to a beautiful little girl called Fraya-Mae weighing 2lb born at 26wks.... I was my sisters birthing partner, my beautiful baby niece was born sleeping and even though I got to hold her and tell her I loved her more than anything she would never hear it. It’s very hard to come to terms with something so tragic but I know my baby Fraya-mae is watching me from up above. This is for you baby girl aunty sam loves you so so much may you rest in peace ?

Saturday, 28 October 2017 22:59

My name is chelsea am 27 years old I lost my mam on July 23rd this year.I am really struggling to cope and I have 2 young girls aged 9&5 years old they to were close my my mam they have been absolutely amazing handling it and they keep me going. I am currently doing a bereavement course and am just wondering if any one else has or is going through the same or another brevevment xx thanks xx 

Friday, 20 October 2017 17:16

My dear brother Norm, so courageous after being told you only had 6 months left, how do you even deal with that?  My brother was like my other twin we were very much alike and I miss him so much, it's only been 16 months but it feels like yesterday, people don't really talk about him anymore or even ask me how I'm feeling, why not?  I always tell him out loud that I love him and tell him to stay with us always until we all meet again one day.  A great comforting site thank you I'm glad I found it.

Friday, 20 October 2017 08:15
Hon Au

How do you handle a situation when your partner's siblings feel this way to you by sending this message? My partner's name is Marc. I told them I need time to go through my partner's personal folders before I can give whatever they want. The folders are kept in the loft where I have not found courage to enter on my own and look through them, less I just break down just looking through.


No, I am sorry I do not understand. You have had nearly two and a half years and we now need the return of our family possessions. They are not yours, nor were they Marc's personal items. Marc was the family custodian only and it is now time for that responsibility to be passed on to one of us. It is more important to foster young minds than to have these folders and items sitting unused in a loft.
You have your own memories and mementos of your short time with Marc, which we have no intention of intruding upon or disturbing. 
Thank you.
Tuesday, 26 September 2017 19:59

i lost my husband 2 months ago and I just can't pull myself together,I'm 46 and was my husbands full time carer,this thing called grieving is completely overwhelming me

Friday, 22 September 2017 20:43
Tina Sellers

I lost my mother nearly 11 weeks ago and l just feel so sad my father died when l was 2years old .so she was the only parent l knew. Never felt so lost.

Wednesday, 06 September 2017 19:40
Lorraine Dormer

Just discovered this site.  I am feeling very alone and lost right now.  My only son died in tragic circumstances almost two years ago.  My daughter lives a long way from me so I'm finding life difficult.  The grief is just so painful.

Tuesday, 29 August 2017 22:45

My son and i lost his wonderful dad and my true soulmate Simon on the 19th of July 2017 .

His death was sudden and unexpected, he suffered a massive heart attack as we were getting ready to take Finn our 11 yr old son to school .

we had no idea he had the condition that took him from us so cruelly, he was only 45 yrs old .

There are no words to describe the pain i feel, we spent 26 years by each others side and i am utterly lost. 

Tuesday, 22 August 2017 10:34

I lost my beautiful husband on 11th June 2017.

Today just over a week after his funeral.  I feel that there is no point to my existence. I'm disabled and house bound. I thought i was invisible before. Now I know I am invisible.

I'm trying to hold on, I tell myself this is just a moment in time.  Things/life holds no surprises for me. Its not hard to see where this leads to. 

Saturday, 15 July 2017 15:00


I lost my beloved partner in June 2016 and somehow I am still here. On the outside I seem OK but the days seem to be getting longer and more pointless than before...

Does it ever get any better?

Tuesday, 04 July 2017 19:21
Raymond Hughes

I lost my wife of 41 years, to cancer, in April of this year. She was a wonderful, lively, positive and loving lady and I miss her so, so, much. I would like to join your group for the support it provides.

Saturday, 01 July 2017 09:02

I would like to join your group, my son committed suicide 14 weeks ago.  please help me.

Thursday, 29 June 2017 14:04

Just click on the BUK support forums link Lyn and join the forum where you will get the support you need.

Thursday, 29 June 2017 14:50
Natalie Mandy Bleau

Hi i lost my Father in February to cancer. I am also suffering with Bipolar Affective Disorder. it feels like i am lost and want to give up on life.

Monday, 19 June 2017 15:09

Hello, I lost my mum,dad, and husband all in three years. My husband was only 52. 

Thursday, 15 June 2017 18:53

I lost my son in January. Bereft.

Tuesday, 23 May 2017 00:27

Hi I lost my husband 3 days ago after he was involved in a collision with a coach while doing the amateur ride for the tour de Yorkshire.  He had really significant chest injuries and other injuries. I'm totally heartbroken he was my soulmate and my whole life.  I just can't imagine life without him, never seeing him again or for him to hold me and tell me he loves me. My life feels as though it's ended. 

Tuesday, 09 May 2017 15:38

Pixie-i know how you feel. I lost my husband and soulmate a month ago. For a while i felt him still around but now reality is crashing in and I feel in physical and mental pain. Try to hang in and not panic. 

Monday, 24 April 2017 04:53


I'm really not sure about this, a bit wary of the internet, but I lost my wife just before Christmas (33yrs), I'm not a great help-seeker, but this is brutal.

Obviously I can deal with this on my own (not). I don't need you do I? Tell me, what is there here?

Tuesday, 04 April 2017 15:54

I have been wary of using online or other support too. I lost my husband  of 33 years last June (2016). It happened over just a few weeks.

I have learned over the last months that only people who have experienced loss can understand any of it. 

I think it's worth a try- keep talking.


Wednesday, 10 May 2017 08:52

Hi i lost my girl friend suddenly three days ago.  we lived in morocco and there is no one here for me to talk to.
 i just keep seeing her and hearing her everywhere and miss her so much.
 id love to have someone to talk to.
 thank you

Sunday, 26 March 2017 17:23

can a family member come out to be with you so you don't have the shock of leaving the place you live at as well?

Friday, 28 April 2017 07:58
trisha may

Hi there......I need to talk to some one

on the 19th October 2016 my boyfriend of 4 years suddenly past away........we new each other for 40 years but lost contact in ,


I was at his bedside when he pass over...but I cant stop wondering if I could of done any thing to help him.

Thursday, 16 March 2017 21:19

Trisha, use the links on this webpage to join our forum and/or out FB group, there you will get plenty of support I promise you.

Friday, 17 March 2017 00:51
michael welsh

i have just lost my lovely wife suddenly at age 64 after been married for 42 years she died suddenly after a short 2 day stay in hospital

on 30th dec 2016 i m

am totaly lost on my daughter has been a great comfort but she grieves as well

i need somebody to talk to who has been in the same position.i am so stressesd am feeling ill

im 66 whats next !

Tuesday, 28 February 2017 16:44


I have recently 4th February lost my dad my king my rock I'm beyond devastated or heartbroken it was completely unexpected due to a fall down the stairs & fracturing his neck. He was making a slow recovery but then took a turn for the worse he leaves a wife 2 granddaughters & myself a now all female clan ?? ??

Wednesday, 22 February 2017 23:15
steven lee

i lost my wife o the 8th of January  i am devastated my whole world has been taken from me 2017 is a year i will never forget i am alone in the house and my brain is working overtime what can i do 

Tuesday, 07 February 2017 19:54
Carol Gadsby

i lost my husband on the 13 th August 2016 at the age of63 due to a short battle with cancer we had been together for 40 years and married for 38 years he was also my carer as I am disabled and Regestered blind which means I can't go out without the care of another person I have family and friends who take me out when they can I also stay at my sons at weekends when he is not working unfortunately I am spending my third weekend on the row at home this week 

Friday, 03 February 2017 16:30
Karen moonie

Hi my name is Karen and I have just lost my husband johnny very suddenly and unexpected on the 3/1/17 johnny was my soul mate my best friend my life he was the most amazing step dad and the most loved papa johnny to our 6 grandchildren I am totally lost and don't know what to do my family and best friend are my rocks and my sisters husband was tragically killed 14 years ago on the 14th of this month so she knows the pain I am suffering but i need to find people who are going through the same as me to help me cope when I have no one with me x

Thursday, 12 January 2017 12:55
Debra Fenn

Hi, sorry for your loss, I lost my husband 5 years ago and am still not coping, I have moved on and remarried but I still have really bad days and not sure if I have still come to terms with his loss.

Thursday, 30 March 2017 21:51
Powered by JoomVita VitaBook