I'm really not sure about this, a bit wary of the internet, but I lost my wife just before Christmas (33yrs), I'm not a great help-seeker, but this is brutal.
Obviously I can deal with this on my own (not). I don't need you do I? Tell me, what is there here?
I have been wary of using online or other support too. I lost my husband of 33 years last June (2016). It happened over just a few weeks.
I have learned over the last months that only people who have experienced loss can understand any of it.
I think it's worth a try- keep talking.
Hi i lost my girl friend suddenly three days ago. we lived in morocco and there is no one here for me to talk to.
i just keep seeing her and hearing her everywhere and miss her so much.
id love to have someone to talk to.
Hi there......I need to talk to some one
on the 19th October 2016 my boyfriend of 4 years suddenly past away........we new each other for 40 years but lost contact in ,
I was at his bedside when he pass over...but I cant stop wondering if I could of done any thing to help him.
i have just lost my lovely wife suddenly at age 64 after been married for 42 years she died suddenly after a short 2 day stay in hospital
on 30th dec 2016 i m
am totaly lost on my own.my daughter has been a great comfort but she grieves as well
i need somebody to talk to who has been in the same position.i am so stressesd am feeling ill
im 66 whats next !
I have recently 4th February lost my dad my king my rock I'm beyond devastated or heartbroken it was completely unexpected due to a fall down the stairs & fracturing his neck. He was making a slow recovery but then took a turn for the worse he leaves a wife 2 granddaughters & myself a now all female clan ?? ??
i lost my husband on the 13 th August 2016 at the age of63 due to a short battle with cancer we had been together for 40 years and married for 38 years he was also my carer as I am disabled and Regestered blind which means I can't go out without the care of another person I have family and friends who take me out when they can I also stay at my sons at weekends when he is not working unfortunately I am spending my third weekend on the row at home this week
Hi my name is Karen and I have just lost my husband johnny very suddenly and unexpected on the 3/1/17 johnny was my soul mate my best friend my life he was the most amazing step dad and the most loved papa johnny to our 6 grandchildren I am totally lost and don't know what to do my family and best friend are my rocks and my sisters husband was tragically killed 14 years ago on the 14th of this month so she knows the pain I am suffering but i need to find people who are going through the same as me to help me cope when I have no one with me x
My name is Catherine. I lost my mum on 5th October 2016. I miss her. I am back at work but I feel tearful and lacking in energy.
Catherine, hope you don't mind me contacting you. Hope you are coping better now. I lost my mum on 15 December 2016 and her funeral was last Thursday 5 January 2017. It is very raw for me now and i just cannot return to work at the moment. My heart goes out to you, it is the most lonely, painful, sad place to be. Take care Paula xx
Hi I lost my husband 11 days ago,
i am so lost not sure what to do or how to feel
he died very suddenly
Hi I too just lost my husband suddenly in the 3/1/17 we had a normal day ate tea together watched a film until I went to bed as I was working the next day then I was woken to a bang and my son shouting Johnny's name and I knew in my heart when I saw him and heard the noises before the silence he had left me I just got his certificate yesterday to say it was his heart and I had a little comfort knowing it was definitely at home that he left I just pray he knew me and my son were there with him we have his funeral on Tuesday always here if you need to chat or anything take care x
In a few weeks it will be 4 years since my soul mate Carolyn died and I still miss her every day, sometimes I just wish I was gone from this world, I feel I am in Gods waiting room, I try to get on with my life and I have a new partner now but its not the same, lovely lady but she will never replace Carolyn. I will be glad when the next few weeks are over.
I lost my wife 7 days ago she only went in to hospital for a bladder infection, but caught pneumonia, suffered a heart attack and never recovered.
We had been married for 44 years and as we had no children we used to do everything together.
Although I am now retired we had to move away from our relatives because of my job, so the nearest relative is now over a hundred miles away.
My neighbours are great but I do not want to bother them as they have there own lives to lead.
So here I am all alone with my thoughts and awaiting the cremation of my soulmate, does this feeling of grief ever end.
My dad passed away on Sunday July 10, aged 90. He was my second parent to go, so now I am alone. The link to my childhood is now gone, forever.
For the first 2 weeks - and including the funeral - I held it together quite well. Then about the third week, I just started crying uncontrollably. I started calling his name. For years he'd been in a home, in England - I'm in Ireland. I'd make a trip every few weeks to see him. I couldn't believe I wouldn't be planning any more of those trips. They were generally very boring - he didn't have much to say for the last 2-3 years - but I felt I was there. He knew I was there for him. That is what mattered.
And now that little bit of kindness is finished, over, redundant, no longer required. It is a very strange feeling, and one that I'm still coming to terms with.
I write songs and in the midst of my grieving, I wrote this. It's the story of how I felt at that time, and it is for everyone that is feeling the way I did. I would like to share it. 'The light will always shine'.
So a week and a day since dad died... My emotions are either overwhelming or numbed... I cant just give in cos my mum is 83 and needs me and my only brother is in Wourcester 3 1/2 hrs away. Its hard as it is but harder still because im not finding time to deal with my stuff and vulnerabilities in this ..I have to be there to support mum but if i dont make space in that for me ill not be able to help her and retain some scrap of my tattered sanity.. Dad was ready to go and it was better for him that he was able to.. i was with him when he went and am so pleased i was but for mum and so for me its very hard we are both glad hes not suffering anymore but a little lost. I dont feel "old enough " to do what I feel i should.. Im a child in a 53 yr olds body!
Me again, I cant get into any chat or support groups, keep saying name invalid. Can I just say on here I had an awful childhood, abusive 30yr relationship, then was with husband for 6yrs. I am tormenting myself over our relationship, questioning things and am not coping in the slightest.. Oh my god oh my god its awful..
Pixie...I'm so sorry for your loss and my heart truly goes out to you at this very sad time.
By the sound of it you are entering a username or password the database doesn't recognise so here are some suggestions.
Go into our main web page where you found this guestbook and you have three choices for the support you so need from BUK.
If you belong to Facebook you can join our group using the link from the menu on the home page and/or follow the link to our forum and register for free with a username and password of your choice, you will be made most welcome there.
Finally once again use the link to our live chatroom which evenings are best when members are about and log on with a username BUT NOT a password or you won't get in.
I do hope you come back to see this and we can then support you during the tough days ahead
My husband died the beginning of july and instead of pain easing it is getting worse. At times it is so bad I want to end it myself.. I have no support, just sit on my own missing him.
Sorry for the short reply but I think I used to much text as it would not post.
I was with my partner for 14 years and just lost her to cancer a couple of weeks ago.
I tried the chat rooms but no luck with any real chat.
If you want to chat let me know.
I lost my fiancee 3 months ago to suicide after a long battle with anxiety and paranoia from a trauma 11 years ago. We have a 3 year old daughter and I am trying to get through the days with a sense of normality for her but my sadness, fear, guilt and exhaustion are all I am left with at the end of the day. I miss him so much and it is hard to come to terms with his choice.
hi mel. I just wondered how you are getting on? I lost my fiancé to suicide 12 years ago and I thought it was the end of me tbh, but then my life got so much worse that I recently lost my mum, way too young and that was so much worse than I could ever imagine. most of the time I have no idea what I am doing with my life. anyway enough about me I just wanted you to know others feel your pain and your not alone x
I lost my wonderful husband David on the19th July last year. I/ we the family nursed David through a short but horrendous battle with oral cancer.
At the moment I don't know why I'm still here with out him and it's very hard to cope with on a daily basis. I know he is in a better place and pain free but it doesn't help. I miss him very much including the bad times xxxx